marbretherese wrote:Iolanthe wrote: But I reckon I'm the only one who really likes this book...
I suspect you might be one of a select few, Iolanthe. I don't like it either; I find Turin's inability to take advice incredibly irritating and I can't find anything to like about him at all . . .

You're not alone, Iolanthe.

I see a bit of me in Turin's stubbornness. maybe that's why I can relate to him. I currently find myself in a bad situation where advisers - including my parents - have given me council for 6 years, and only now I'm beginning to see that they
may possibly have a point.
One's pride completely takes over when another gives advice, leading to the advice - good, excellent or bad - being overlooked. It seems to me that Turin was simply trying to "stand on his own to feet" as it were, besides having an immense amount of pride, appear tough and confident and mature for his age. He was just a mere human among elves, he had to act like something special for them to take
any notice of him. Then he found himself among brutes who would easily kill him given half the chance. It's like the ranking order in a pack of wolves: to have any opinion in the "pack" of brutes, he needed to appear stronger than he actually was.
I completely understand Turin's situation as my situation is similar, in a way. I am the most qualified, but youngest RN in my ward and to get the staff to give me an iota of respect, I need to appear other than I am. If they knew that I have a soft heart and hate giving orders, I'd rather do the work myself, they'd walk all over me and the lack of leadership in the ward would the deterioration of patient care.
In Turin's case, a slight case of weakness or appeared weakness could but most probably would cost him his life.
I may not be able to change anyone's dislike for poor Turin. I just wish that all may see the situation from his point of view.

I gave hope to men, I have kept no hope for myself.